Had a hectic week, not kinna you wanna have every week.
Anyway, during the course of the week, a friend of mine confided about his problems. His story is like this...he used to be a couple with the office prettiest girl, i shall name F. F and S had been going steady for quite some time laa, though they dont announce they are an item ..everybody accepted that they are together laa. It is not like the couple who eat breakfast together, lunch together, dinner as well....work together2 as well. Man...that is just plain sucks.
Anyway, during the course of the week, a friend of mine confided about his problems. His story is like this...he used to be a couple with the office prettiest girl, i shall name F. F and S had been going steady for quite some time laa, though they dont announce they are an item ..everybody accepted that they are together laa. It is not like the couple who eat breakfast together, lunch together, dinner as well....work together2 as well. Man...that is just plain sucks.
They live and acted like there is nothing between them, which is not a suprise considering that being a couple at the same office may invited serious trouble. However, on some nite out, he will bring her as well. During our football matches, she will be there too....so it wasnt like the world greatest secret either....people who knew them, know about it ler.
So , during the six months they were together, bonds were strengthen..she told him what she wouldnt care to tell others and he is likewise. He is care-free and somehow very subtle in his tone and doesnt look like defending the turf that seriously. They spend time together at Bukit Tinggi, Langkawi etc with their friends and trusted circles ler. Hush-hush ler but suddenly after a period of cooling off, she breaks the relationship...citing he is not serious in the relationship and decided that she has found another that she felt can be relied upon. He was devastated at first and later when he confronted her, both admit that their relationship may not have an happy ending. She told him that he was afraid of making commitment and he told her that her past haunted him, shackling any further emotion that he might have towards her.
He confided in me on what to do...as usual i told any dilemma lovers to fight to the very end, at least he knows that he has tried his best. If it doesnt work out, it just wont...let her go. After long deliberation and tears, she wouldnt bulge from her initial decision to break. He accepted it and stated that they remain friends. Smiles all around.
Soon after 2 weeks, he is back to old self...chirpy and jovial. Getting along with his life...and i thought that was the end of it. But no.....hell has no fury like the wrath of a woman. As he walked pass her, he said "Hi". She turned from smile to ice tundra queen in an instant. She kept quite and " muncung empatbelas"(if there such a term).
He sat down with me...and asked why she is like that, after all both of us know that it was she who decided to break off. Must she acted like that? So being a good friend, i told him that send her an email, since talking straight may not be the right thing to do as she is refusing to even talk to him. So off with the email and lo and behold, she stated that she can longer acted like the old days. She can only talk on official duties only. Apart from that, no conversation will talk place. Alawei....how come ma? Though both agreed to be friends la kan...
I told him la kan...so beg what you didnt lose in the first place. May be she is not as happy in the new relationship and secretly blaming him for getting her into it. But he didnt forced her to do anything at all....she makes the cut!
May be i am biased for he is my friend, but since i know the whole story ..i know that he wasnt in the wrong. That is why i am wondering, can you ever be friends with your ex-girlfriend? Or ex-boyfriends?
Personally, i had a girlfriend once...her name was Ida. We were closed and still at high school. Two years and it didnt work out...i was send to a boarding school and she was in a Maahad. So distances make the decision. She was devastated that i make the call to break off but i thought i was being realistic.
We never met again until 4 years later after my SPM, i was working at the town top food attraction(mana ada khidmat negara masa tu beb...carik duit ada laa..)at nite and bump into her. We chatted and she still remembers me well. That day on...we still talk once in a while..trading stories of his BF and my GF and how to deal with it. She get married early and i attend her wedding as well. Then i was abroad and we lost contact.
Through chance, i lost my Maybank Credit Card and had to report it in 5 years later...and she was the receiving officer. We met again but on a different occasion and much nicer ler. get my credit card on time and once in awhile...get an email.
Not all of my ex are like this....there are some who even refuses to even acknowledge me...may be becoz of their BF who are fitter than me, but what the hell la kan. Persoalannya..kenapa perempuan berdendam sampai macam tuh....rational la sikit.
Hmm...entahlah....
So , during the six months they were together, bonds were strengthen..she told him what she wouldnt care to tell others and he is likewise. He is care-free and somehow very subtle in his tone and doesnt look like defending the turf that seriously. They spend time together at Bukit Tinggi, Langkawi etc with their friends and trusted circles ler. Hush-hush ler but suddenly after a period of cooling off, she breaks the relationship...citing he is not serious in the relationship and decided that she has found another that she felt can be relied upon. He was devastated at first and later when he confronted her, both admit that their relationship may not have an happy ending. She told him that he was afraid of making commitment and he told her that her past haunted him, shackling any further emotion that he might have towards her.
He confided in me on what to do...as usual i told any dilemma lovers to fight to the very end, at least he knows that he has tried his best. If it doesnt work out, it just wont...let her go. After long deliberation and tears, she wouldnt bulge from her initial decision to break. He accepted it and stated that they remain friends. Smiles all around.
Soon after 2 weeks, he is back to old self...chirpy and jovial. Getting along with his life...and i thought that was the end of it. But no.....hell has no fury like the wrath of a woman. As he walked pass her, he said "Hi". She turned from smile to ice tundra queen in an instant. She kept quite and " muncung empatbelas"(if there such a term).
He sat down with me...and asked why she is like that, after all both of us know that it was she who decided to break off. Must she acted like that? So being a good friend, i told him that send her an email, since talking straight may not be the right thing to do as she is refusing to even talk to him. So off with the email and lo and behold, she stated that she can longer acted like the old days. She can only talk on official duties only. Apart from that, no conversation will talk place. Alawei....how come ma? Though both agreed to be friends la kan...
I told him la kan...so beg what you didnt lose in the first place. May be she is not as happy in the new relationship and secretly blaming him for getting her into it. But he didnt forced her to do anything at all....she makes the cut!
May be i am biased for he is my friend, but since i know the whole story ..i know that he wasnt in the wrong. That is why i am wondering, can you ever be friends with your ex-girlfriend? Or ex-boyfriends?
Personally, i had a girlfriend once...her name was Ida. We were closed and still at high school. Two years and it didnt work out...i was send to a boarding school and she was in a Maahad. So distances make the decision. She was devastated that i make the call to break off but i thought i was being realistic.
We never met again until 4 years later after my SPM, i was working at the town top food attraction(mana ada khidmat negara masa tu beb...carik duit ada laa..)at nite and bump into her. We chatted and she still remembers me well. That day on...we still talk once in a while..trading stories of his BF and my GF and how to deal with it. She get married early and i attend her wedding as well. Then i was abroad and we lost contact.
Through chance, i lost my Maybank Credit Card and had to report it in 5 years later...and she was the receiving officer. We met again but on a different occasion and much nicer ler. get my credit card on time and once in awhile...get an email.
Not all of my ex are like this....there are some who even refuses to even acknowledge me...may be becoz of their BF who are fitter than me, but what the hell la kan. Persoalannya..kenapa perempuan berdendam sampai macam tuh....rational la sikit.
Hmm...entahlah....
4 comments:
probably F needs more attention after the breakup. mana tahu sayang tu ada lagi ....
Hmm, tergerak hati untuk berkata-kata... Kemungkinan yang ada, mungkin F sebenarnya masih ada perasaan pada S. Dan dia mengharapkan S akan membantah perpecahan di antara mereka. Apabila S bersetuju, F rasa kecewa. Tapi apakan daya, perpecahan sudah berlaku. Dia bereaksi demikian adalah untuk menarik perhatian S semula. Mungkin juga S tidak menjadi seorang pakwe yang dikehendaki oleh F. Silapnya adalah di pihak F kerana tidak menyuarakan apa yang dikendakinya. Dia mengharapkan S paham-paham sendiri ler... Sedangkan takde manusia yang tahu isi hati orang lain...
Tak semua pompuan susah nak jadi kawan after a serious relationship. Lelaki pun samer jugak. Ada my friend (lelaki) yang tak boleh terima hakikat there-is-a-friendship-after-a-broken-relationship...
Betul laa la tuh.
Personally, F felt that during her relationship with S she was a lot happier than what she has now but takkan nak telan air liur balik kan..kan...
hello.. u live once ok.. if u have to telan balik ludah just to be happy just do it le..
u can tell her that on my behalf.. LOL
p.s. typical women are shortsighted. made the cut and suffer.... *sigh*
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