The tale of two husbands

Need your opinion on this....

First Husband

The first husband married early in life at the ripe young age of 20 years old. He didn't get a good degree but a degree nonetheless. Being married, the thought of having family is heavy on his minds albeit knowing that it is a huge financial outlay.

Economic recession slaps him in his face...he couldn't get a job..his wife was luckily enoughto be drafted by one of the local univ. He searches but with a weak degree...he couldn't get far. He has to endure countless interview without success...broke and desperate, he becomes a salesman.

With a meagre of commission, he plow away until he was given a chance to work at one small company as an executive. He started well....get connected quickly and quickly rises through the ranks. However, knowing that a plain monthly salary wouldn't cut it on its own, he becomes a broker of sorts. Getting his day work done during the day and make deals at nite for his business.

After work, he forgo dinner at home in order to meet clients for his deals. It wasn't easy....his wife hardly see him anymore, he is tired most of the time and at the best possible moments, the wife announced she is pregnant.

He knew he need to act fast, accumulated all the money he could grab on for his family is getting bigger. Stress beginning to take toll....the small talk he uses to have becames arguments and living in a small apt. in ampang doesn't help.

By Allah wills, he succeeds in buying a house with his own money, paid half of it and moved in on his 26th birthday. His son is 1 years old...and the business is doing okay. But harden marriages started to crack...the wife batterred him as to why he is tired and hardly helps in the house.

Being pregnant with a secong child, doesn't help either. The wife complained about the smell of cigarettes he brings home (he doesn't smoke at home), the late nite he constantly come home and all the little things in the world.

Tired and frustrated, he wrote in an email to his wife that perhaps they should separated if she thinks she will be better off with another man. The wife thought it was over and referred the case to the local pejabat kadi.

He didn't meant to divorce her but the word is his email was construed as the final nail in the coffin. He was furious with his wife for referring the case straight to pejabat kadi...things gotten out of hands.

Soon all his and her family stepped in...the in-laws accused him of using his new found wealth as a mean to chase their poor daughter out, the parent of the man told him off for being a short sighted man.

However, things resolved amicably and they soon remarried but that incidents label him for life in the eyes of the people who knew him....it nearly broke him forever...but somehow he carry on.

Second Husband

He came from a family of farmers. He understand the word hard work for he has seen it with his own eyes.

He slowly work his way through schools, getting a fairly good result in SRP and SPM for the necessary enrollment to the public universities. Having manage to secure a place in UM, he studied hard to get a good degree.

It is at this time, he was introduced a girl that was somehow highly sought after by his peers. The girl is from a different facullty but he knew he has the advantage. Slowly he captures her heart with the smallest tinniest thing...silly for most men but highly romantic for the woman.

The girl being close to her family, begans to tell story of the boy. He was that...he was this. Of course, being conveyed a constant barrage of good news...make the parents eager to meet him. In fact, he didnt disappoint them...he was all smiley, very helpful, good with small talk, the rapport was good and all set for blissful marriage.

Soon both of them graduated, the girl secured a job at a prestigous accounting firm and the boy at a local college as a tutor. They were engaged in less than six months after graduation. The boy was infact is heavily influenced by his mother. His mother was in fact the bearing in his life..

The big moments came...in a matter of week, they are going to get married. The whole family was excited because he was afterall, the ever smilling, ever helpful, son in law. However, exactly a week before the marriage itself, he called the girl to called his marriage to her..perhaps due to cold feet or perhaps influnced from his mother, nobody knows....but the girl salvaged the situation.

They got married nonetheless, rent a nice apt. in cheras and started their marriage life. Little that the girl know that the husband is a mere facade of the man she thought he is. Yes he work hard at work but he sleeps immediately after work. He always favour his mother over everything.

Things make worse when the wife got promoted faster through the ranks...she earns more than the husband. The late arrival of a child also put toll on the marriage. Being sligthly overweight, he felt out of place and out of sorts...

By Allah's will, they were given their first child after 2 years of marriage, it started off well....but as the child grows up..he felt even more out place. Being over looked for promotion, he felt even more frustrated. He started smoking in his house dur to frustration much to the frustartion of his wife. He refuse to take care of his child when his wife is late from work citing tiredness and busy with his schoolwork.

He is current doing his masters to further his fledging career but this has place a heavier burden on him. The schoolwork and chores at home make it difficult to handle. The wife arrive late from work usually at 8 pm, need to care for the children and cook for him at the same time. He is adamant that his wife cooks for him, no substitute allowed!

Finally he snapped, after a heated argument with his wife over the caring of the child, he slapped the wife so hard that blank out his wife momentarily. Blood came splurting out from the mouth as to demonstrate the power of his hands.

The child cried profusely and after the wife regained consciousness, ran away for refuge in her sister house and later when home to tell off her parents. The in law was furious as expected but discussion take place to calm things down.

Luckily, they work on their marriages and reconciliate but he stills refuse to care for the child if the wife came late from work or whenever he is free citing busy work schedules. He still smoke in the house and continue to favour his mother to the point that the wife just give up mending his ways...



The ONE MILLION DOLLAR Question??

In both of the cases, who is even more irresponsible??

Who is even more melampau??

Based on the story told, who would you sided??

Saje nak you all punya pendapat...bear in mind, that both husbands fulfill their end of their marriages in a general sense by providing a house, a car and sexually active.

Time...and its relativity

It is somehow baffling...

Time usually flies when you are enjoying yourselves.

But man, do time drag when you are in difficulties or bored.

The last 8 months since i left the corporate world to venture on my own, time flies....the business has taken me to Penang and JB. Long hours at some high rise corporate offices.

But as always, in January...business is usually slow. Govt. department haven't get their warrants yet...private institution are busy balancing their books. Waiting for your long due payments is also a pain ...a very painful pain!

I don't know what i am ranting or babbling about....

Perhaps the pain of being beaten by Man Utd in injury time has really gotten into me. God damn Rio Ferdinand!!!!

STATISTICS : KENAPA AKU LETIH BEKERJA??

It's a bit old but still funny la kan...



KENAPA AKU LETIH BEKERJA?

Selama beberapa tahun aku telah merungut kerana kurang tidur dan terlalu banyak tekanan dalam hidup, akan tetapi sekarang kini aku tahu kenapa ianya berlaku (the real reason) :

Aku keletihan kerana terlebih kerja... nak tau kenapa? Di bawah ini aku akan tunjukkan kenapa aku mempunyai beban kerja yang lebih dan ianya adalah benar dan bukan rekaan aku :

Populasi penduduk Malaysia sekarang adalah 23 juta orang.
1.7 juta darinya sudah bersara.
Jadi tinggal 21.3 juta orang.

1.3 juta pula adalah golongan kanak2 bawah 6 tahun.
Jadi tinggal 20 juta orang.

Dari 20 juta ini, 7 juta masih belajar (tadika, sekolah, kolej,Universiti dll).
Jadi tinggal 13 juta orang yang boleh buat kerja.

Dari 13 juta ini, 5 juta orang adalah pekerja kerajaan yang pergi kerja tapi tak buat kerja.
Jadi tinggal 8 juta orang yang boleh buat kerja.

Tolak 3 juta orang yang duduk dalam hutan (tentera darat) pasal diorang nie nak kerja macam mana... tinggal dalam hutan.
Dah tinggal 5 juta orang yang boleh buat kerja....

Dari jumlah itu, tolak 2.7 juta orang yang menganggur dan tak der kerja, surirumah, pekerja yang kena VSS, orang2 tua, fresh university student, kena buang kerja dll).
Tinggallah 2.3 juta orang yang boleh buat kerja.

Dari jumlah ini, sebanyak 1,215,512 orang dilaporkan sakit dan kini berada di dalam hospital di seluruh Malaysia (tak kiralah hospital swasta ke atau hospital kerajaan dan ini termasuklah hospital gila).
Dah tinggal 1,084,488 orang yang boleh buat kerja....

Sekarang ini mengikut bancian terkini, terdapat 1,084,486 orang di dalam penjara dan Pusat Serenti di seluruh negara.
Jadi dah tinggal 2 orang yang boleh buat kerja...

Dan 2 orang itu adalah engkau dan aku...

Dari dua orang ini... engkau SEKARANG INI masih duduk depan komputer, main internet, main games, reading jokes, membaca email, main chat dan tak buat kerja langsung... jadi tinggallah Aku sorang yang buat kerja dalam Malaysia nie...

Mana aku tak letih!!

Jadi sedarlah skit.... dahhhh..!!! pi buat kerja!!!

P/S : Semua statistik di atas boleh dirujuk kesahihannya di Pusat2 Bancian, Kementerian Kesihatan, Kementerian Pertahanan, Jabatan Tenaga Raya, Kementerian Pendidikan dan Jabatan Kebajikan Masyarakat.

Takkan nak rujuk itu pun nak kena suruh aku buat jugak

3 Words - simple but somehow difficult to say that often..

Just 3 Words


There are many things that you can do to strengthen your relationships.
Often the most effective thing you can do involves saying just three words.
When spoken sincerely, these statements often have the power to develop new
friendships, deepen old ones and even bring healing to relationships that
have soured.

The following three-word phrases can be tools to help develop every relationship.

1. Let me help
Good friends see a need and then try to fill it. When they see a hurt they
do what they can to heal it. Without being asked, they jump in and help out.

2. I understand you.
People become closer and enjoy each other more when the other person accepts
and understands them. Letting your spouse know - in so many little ways - that
you understand them, is one of the most powerful tools for healing your relationship.
And this can apply to any relationship.

3. I respect you
Respect is another way of showing love. Respect demonstrates that another
person is a true equal. If you talk to your children as if they were
adults you will strengthen the bonds and become closer friends. This
applies to all interpersonal relationships.

4. I miss you.
Perhaps more marriages could be saved and strengthened if couples simply
and sincerely said to each other "I miss you." This powerful affirmation
tells partners they are wanted, needed, desired and loved. Consider how
important you would feel, if you received an unexpected phone call from
your spouse in the middle of your workday, just to say "I miss you."

5. Maybe you're right.
This phrase is very effective in diffusing an argument. The implication
when you say "maybe you're right" is the humility of admitting, "maybe I'm
wrong". Let's face it. When you have an argument with someone, all you
normally do is solidify the other person's point of view. They, or you,
will not likely change their position and you run the risk of seriously
damaging the relationship between you. Saying "maybe you're right" can
open the door to explore the subject more. You may then have the
opportunity to express your view in a way that is understandable to the
other person.

6. Please forgive me
Many broken relationships could be restored and healed if people would
admit their mistakes and ask for forgiveness. All of us are vulnerable to
faults, foibles and failures. A man should never be ashamed to own up that
he has been in the wrong, which is saying, in other words, that he is
wiser today than he was yesterday.

7. I thank you.
Gratitude is an exquisite form of courtesy. People who enjoy the
companionship of good, close friends are those who don't take daily
courtesies for granted. They are quick to thank their friends for
their many expressions of kindness. On the other hand, people whose
circle of friends is severely constricted often do not have the attitude
of gratitude.

8. Count on me
A friend is one who walks in when others walk out. Loyalty is an essential
ingredient for true friendship. It is the emotional glue that bonds
people. Those that are rich in their relationships tend to be steady and
true friends. When troubles come, a good friend is there indicating "you
can count on me."

9. I'll be there
If you have ever had to call a friend in the middle of the night, to take a
sick child to hospital, or when your car has broken down some miles from
home, you will know how good it feels to hear the phrase "I'll be there."
Being there for another person is the greatest gift we can give. When
we are truly present for other people, important things happen to them and
us. We are renewed in love and friendship. We are restored emotionally
and spiritually. Being there is at the very core of civility.

10. Go for it
We are all unique individuals. Don't try to get your friends to conform to
your ideals. Support them in pursuing their interests, no matter how far
out they seem to you. God has given everyone dreams, dreams that are
unique to that person only. Support and encourage your friends to follow
their dreams. Tell them to "go for it."

B o n u s : 11. I love you
Perhaps the most important three words that you can say. Telling someone
that you truly love them satisfies a person's deepest emotional needs.
The need to belong, to feel appreciated and to be wanted. Your spouse,
your children, your friends and you, all need to hear those three little
words: "I love you." Love is a choice. You can love even when the feeling
is gone.

MAS and ITS LOSSES

Lo and behold, now everybody is talking about MAS and the amount of losses it makes in the last financial year alone. Mind you, when you are a National Air Carrier and have a financial losses amounted to RM384 million, you are bound to make a lot of ATTENTION.

What irked me so much is the way it is being discussed. All the brouhaha about the purchase of paintings valued over RM 1.55M is for me is dumbfounded and somehow missing the point altogether.

Okay lets put two and two together…MAS is losing RM 384 milion and that purchase of paintings doesn’t actually balance the books la friend. Even when MAS sold the painting that wouldn’t make any difference. The trouble is deeper but none of the “OUR” appointed minister are willing to talk about it because they probably part of the problem. In fact, probably that is the root of the problem!

Most GLCs be it Telekom Malaysia, TNB, Proton & MAS, the procurement methods is not transparent. Why? Politicians intervene as they wanted the slice of the pie themselves. How the hell do you know? I was a procurement officer at one of these GLCs. Another buddy of mine works with another and ex-boss works with another but the story is the same.

When a big tender is up, there are bounds to be information leaks. While the upper management is talking about information secrecy and need to keep tight lip about it, they themselves will dine and wine when their selected vendors at karaoke bars or golf clubs.

These vendors are usually helmed by some Datuk or Tan Sri or even Persatuan Peniaga Pulau Pinang or Perlis to make their presence felt and the political powers to boot. Monies will be thrown and mention and commission will be mooted.

When the tenders are evaluated, you are bound to see that normally even the lowest price offered will not win the tenders! Why?? because the company offered the lowest price is not the Political company. The evaluation committee usually helmed by the top management in these GLCs that have dine with the vendors will used criteria such as experiences, high capital amount, and the ability to deliver to swing the tenders to the favoured vendors.

I know some of you will say this is normal …but look at the bigger picture, if a simple meals offered in a flight can cost triple the amount than its nearest competitor, what does that tell you? In my own personal experiences, there have been too many instances where the cheapest offered good with the same specs., sama capability and sama distributor tak menang tender kerana pelbagai alasan pihak atasan. Company yg ada political power juga menang biarpun harganya mahal lebih RM 250 per unit.

Mungkin ada yang berkata, ala lu kecoh…RM 250 aje, asal dia deliver cukup…okay, tapi RM 250 seunit for a delivery of 1500 unit, tak jadik RM 375,000.00 mahal dari the lowest quotation??

Ini baru satu comparison, banyak lagi …in fact terlalu banyak jika hendak dinyatakan dalam satu entry ini tapi hakikatnya tetap nyata, penyalahgunaan kuasa oleh sesetengah pihak especially those, who have the necessary cable.

Minister sendiri juga bersalah kerana dengan menggunakan pangkat Datuk dan Tan Si mereka, mereka buka company, mereka jadik chairman company sana sini, dan melalui ini juga mereka menggunakan cabme mereka utk masuk tender2 besar mahupun kecil.

Only in Malaysia and in the world itself, the government party is also one of the richest parties in the world. Because elsewhere, no minister is allowed to do business or associated themselves to one. They are forbidden to do so because it clouded their judgment and reaons.

This, in my personal opinion, is the main reason why MAS have such a heavy losses and Proton today announced a lost of RM 150M, what does this tell you? Mismanagement or just a simple fact that the business is not allowed to run properly as it should??

MAS and its GLCs need not change its MD or CEO every so often because the problem is not with one person, the root of all this evil is the culture or ways we do business in Malaysia where those who are backed by Political powers will always triumphed over those who are the really the genuine article.

Think hard about this because afterall, it is your taxes money that allowed some of these Datuk to drive their brand new Mercedez or BMWs. You pay for the car you never get to drive!!

P/S now, everybody forget about the AP issue altogether.....typical Malaysian eh??

POLICE and ITS State

All the brouhaha over the squatting incident in a police cell in Petaling Jaya has caused awkward moments and embarrassment for the police.

The alleged “Chinese National” was sought after and come forward to present their stories. Heads are bound to roll….and many minister will lose sleep over it. Azmi Khalid flew to China on a PR exercise to exorcise the ghost of this incident.

Police were quick to deny that retaliation will take place. An independent inquiry were initiated and many Malaysians especially Chinese were up in arms over the treatments given to their kin mans.

I personally was not too engrossed over it because as always we Malaysian always make a hill out of a mole. Yes whatever the police did in jail cell I do not condone..i had my grievances over their service but did you know that squatting is a standard police procedure to see whether the woman hid any drug substances in her vagina??

Hey don’t look at me that way dude because it has been proven and well documented. The uproar was caused by Theresa Kok, DAP member of Parliament saying that this is no way to treat a Chinese tourist.

Lo and behold, the “ Chinese National” turns out to be a Malay afterall.

So apa nak cakap sekarang? Dulu duk kecoh kata police mistreat chinese national laa, police brutality laa, kena paper depan suratkhabar kerana memalukan pelancong laa, rupa2nya org melayu yg kena ketuk ketampi.

So claim Azmi Khalid pie China melutut depan Chinese government officials tu sapa nak bayar? Mudahnya kita tunduk dengan org lain semata2 kita takut org benci kita, takut org tak melabur negara kita, takut org tak melancong negara kita, takut org hentam kita di international media, takut…takut.

Cuba kita anjakkan paradigma kita sedikit….Amerika Syarikat serang Afghanistan tanpa segan silu, serang Iraq tanpa kelulusan PBB, hina rakyat Iraq dengan bogelkan tawanan di Kem Abu Gharib.

Ade kita nampak George Bush buat lawatan PR ke Iraq memohon maaf kepada Hamid Kazrai? Ader kita nampak Donald Rumsfield pergi ke PBB membuat kenyataan bahawa mereka memohon maaf, berjuta maaf ??

Well what they say was it was an isolated incident and they do not condone it.

Basically, it is kinna saying that we make mistake ..but so what? What the fuck are you going to do? You hate us but that is nothing new…do your worst laa…we US do give a damn!!!!!

Now that is the kind of attitude that will send shivers do anyone spine. Tak payah US laa…Myanmar tahan Aung San Su Kyi dekat 10 tahun dah, manage Myanmar thru dictatorship….tak kisah la Asean kata apa pun…mampus laa korang semua.

Ini juga bermakna mereka adalah org yang benar2 merdeka! They are no longer bounded by the fear that we cannot stand alone, the fear that others will hate us, the fear that we cannot go far without your assistance.

In fact, we are still being colonize, not by foreign powers but by our own fears. The fact that the PM makes a hasty comments also didn’t appeal much to me.

Since we got an independent inquiry, Pak Lah should has said “ I cannot comments much, not until the independent reports from the inquiry comes out”.

Perhaps the lonely nights has taken the toll on him….

Well, your daughter is a member of Sisters in Islam, a group which fight for woman equality above anything else including Al-Quran and Hadiths. A group, believe that woman can and should be an imam during Friday prayer.

You know what sad about it, while they say they are sisters in Islam and all, the majority tak pakai tudung. Mungkin ini personal tapi itu menunjukkan awak baca kitab tak habis. So macamana nak ajar org lain pasal Islam? Pie la mabuk…

Tapi personally, I believe that the Police should charge Theresa Kok for making a false accusation against the police and the government. Since it was a Malay woman, let UMNO fight amongst themselves.

You should be charge for creating unrest and unnecessary ripples in bilateral relationships between Malaysian and China. Perhaps since you like them so much, may be you should migrate there.

Pardon me, I am just quoting Datuk Noh Omar which says something along the lines…heh..heh..heh

Far and between

Been neglecting my blog for quite some time now….

Not becoz I wanted to…but damn too tired to do anything about it.

A lot has been happening…one of my friend got married, so good luck !

One of my ex-office colleague has passed away due to asthma.

My brother got married again after his painful divorce three years ago and…

I still yet to complete my project at Wisma Genting. Things sometimes move slowly when you lack the necessary funds.

In business, the moment you kinna missed the payment from your paymaster is very painful for the business.

I am not destitute yet but the worries takes away your peaceful, you heart pounding non-stop, you are unsure about what lies….many bad thoughts attacked your mind.

I know that everything will be fine in due time but in the meantime, only god knows laa..

Well you know what cannot destroy you…can only give you countless headache and prone to suicidal behaviour..muahahhah

DOUBLE STANDARD

I read interesting on the ongoing saga on Mr Nguyen impending date with the gallows in Singapore. Mr Nguyen was sentenced to death by hanging in a Singapore court for trying to smuggle 400 gram of heroin from Vietnam via Singapore.

Being an Australian, it bound to be an international crisis.

So one wise minister from Australia, who happen to be the Foreign Minister , said “ Singapore should not hang Mr Nguyen! Any first world country would have forgo death penalties because it is uncivilized”

He also said the same thing when we hang two Australian for the same offence back in the late 90s.

Somehow, I am amused by all these statements la.

Australian have this unshakeable believe that everyone of their citizen is a model citizen. Leslie Michelle, who has just been release from a Bali prison was also given superior treatment. She was acquitted on drug offences as well.

I donno la…first, the statement that any first world country should forgo death penalty is totally oxymoron. US obviously a first world country( a term to divide used by the so called “ wise man”) still practices death penalty. Takkan la tak pernah tengok “ Dead Man walking”. Texas still have death penalty….George Bush is from Texas ..so he must have decided “ well, I executed all these criminals legally in Texas…why not I continue the good work in Afghanistan and Iraq?”

Kalau ader Australian citizen arrested for any crimes in any Asian countries, Australian government is bound to make waves. This is a nation build by criminals from Great Britain and castaways from their home land. That fact alone is somehow ironic because they believe that every citizen of theirs is goody two shoes defies logic for me. Isn’t there a saying that what goes around…comes around. Or Once a thief…forever a thief?

Haiya …double standard laa…we have no qualms in having Malaysian committing high tech fraud in Austrakia. That Chinese guy amassed almost AUSD 1.8 million cheating banks and casinos. Well, you go dude!! At least we Malaysian know that in true spirit of Malaysia Boleh, we can be world beaters if we focus.

So…take it on a chin la aussies! Tak payah guna media to create sympathy to any of your citizen that happen to commit a crime. He did it so face the consequences laa.

Work and more work

I have been too busy lately.

But being self employed I should count that as blessing rather than a curse.

Yesterday was a long day at a site…from 11am to 2am the next day.

I remember one of closest friend once asked me as to why I choose to work in this line. I used to have my own room , a good perk and should I continue selling my soul to the devil and forgo my own principle, I should be earning a whooper of a salary.

But then again, I have to wade the traffic every morning just to clock 8 am every morning, smile when I don’t wanna to….it is too much of a job than a career. A lot of people often confuse the term “job” as similar to a “career”. A job is something you have to do, forcing yourself to do it….because there is no alternative. A career is something you love and looking forward to it…..totally reverse compared to a job.

That’s why the term married to a job is totally different as to committed to a career.

Well, I have yet to complained for I choose this path but the ability to wake up at 10 am in the morning and no qualm of staying awake to watch the current European Champion Liverpool played at 3.30 am, is priceless!

Mind you, I am in no way propagating that working on your own is better, this path is a very hard path. No security…no guarantee. Even if you are back with a million ringgit, if you don’t have a solid business plan….you are 90% bound to fail.

On the other hand, if you have a good job that pays well, happy with the environment …carry on. If you have a budding career and the ability to reach the apex of an organization….soldier on!!

But do so ethically and on merit….in your working life and social life.

Because what goes around…comes around. So be careful…..

HARI RAYA

It is almost here…just a matter of days rather than weeks.

Hari Raya Aidilfitri is just less than a week away.

Mawi is selling all sorts of things, from Canon camera, Proton cars to kuih gelora Mawi. I remember once people said Siti Nurhaliza was over exposed but this Mawi guy, is super exposed la friend but that is a story for another day.

I made mistake in my life, I made terrible things and actions that I still regretted. I know some things shouldn’t have been said or done but it happens.

No excuses but I do seek forgiveness.

I don’t know about you guys but Raya is somehow special.

A day we seek forgiveness from our parents, our partner, our siblings, and kids. To those who has lost their parents, I can understand their sense of lost. To Abdullah Badawi, this will also be a tough time for him.

But spare a thought to those in Pakistan and Afghanistan, who lost their who family in a earthquake, those in Aceh who still waiting for the donation money that never arrive. Mana perginya duit donation Aceh yg berjuta2 dahulu?

Bayarlah zakat fitrah bagi tanggungan kita….

Kerjalah sembahyang Hari Raya dan ziarahilah pusara saudara mara.

Pandulah dengan berhati-hati..jika belum jejak 120 km sejam jangan putus asa sehingga anda putus nyawa! Malaysia have many potential F1 drivers.

To all of you, I seek forgiveness and mengucapkan SELAMAT HARI RAYA AIDILFITRI kepada semua dan MAAF ZAHIR BATIN!!

See you in later!!

SAMY VELLU = THE VILLAGE ..........???

At last, he managed to top it all.

The recent statement issued by the MIC leader that “ Brides is like a new toilet, initially you used it often, after that you uses it less”-Samy Vellu during Parliament session.

I read that statement and wonder how oxymoron can you be??

Last month, before Ramadhan, Datuk Shahrir Ahmad, two DAP officers representing the voice of the smaller people visited a row of houses in Setiawangsa, where an elevated highway supposed to be built, has causes cracks to appear in their homes due to heavy pilling works.

So, Datuk Shahrir Samad pleads to Kementerian Kerja Raya to stop all work fearing that further damages will be incurred.

The next day, Samy Vellu issues a statement “ Kerja lebuh raya ini akan tetap di jalankan kerana jika di berhentikan, lebih baik seluruh Malaysia Lagi bagus naik kereta lembu sahaja. Dari Kuala Lumpur ke Pulau Pinang kalu naik kereta lembu satu bulan baru sampai” – He said with a grin!

Last month as well, One BN MP also question as to why the government must pay the toll concessionaries RM 525 M this year because the govt. doesn’t allowed them to hike their toll rate even though one toll operator announced hundred of millions of profits through their operation.

Again, the next day Samy Vellu said “ Tak payah nak argue pasal kadar pembayaran pampasan kepada pengusaha lebug raya kerana kamu tidak faham kontrak kerajaan!”

Well, I thought, make me understand than…and explain it in lay man terms! A great communicator usually able to communicate great things in the simplest terms-obviously he is not one of them.

My god, that was also one of the most idiotic statement that a minister can make. First, he insulted our intelligence by actually thinking that most of us cannot comprehend about the complexities of the government.

Second, why the kereta lembu statement? I just cannot understand him la …kalau tak mahu buat lebuh raya pun tak pe laa, tapi kena revert naik kereta lembu pulak apa kejadahnya nie? Jalan persekutuan kan ader…yang paling intriguing for me was he actually know that it will take a month for a bullock cart to travel from KL to Pulau Pinang, personal experience ker??

For a minister representing only about 8-9% from the overall Malaysian population, it is poor showing. Not only that the majority of the 8-9% live just above the poverty line and currently, the major contributing factor towards crime, he ought to buck up and shut up.

Sort out your own houses la Samy, you only representing a minority that hardly representing top tier of the nation. Sorry to say laa…you couldn’t even elevated the status of your kinsman to actually conquer the Everest for Malaysia. Compare that to Datuk Azhar, who traveled the world solo and that cubby fella who swim across the English channel-can’t remember his name but I believe he is a Datuk now. Easy eh?

Personally, I believe he way past his sell by date. Too many worn out ideas and way too much excuses. What about the cracks on the pillar in MRR2? Have you done anything about it? Again, why, just widowed Abdullah Badawi and the rest of the BN cabinet actually tolerated you is also a question. Abroad, minister with so many scandal like you are already impeach by the government itself.

Samy, you are the true embodiment of the Malaysia Boleh spirit!

Because whatever you do, the majority of Malaysian citizen still applauds you for your effort!

Samy, you are a champion!!

Heh..heh Samy Happy Deepavali as well.

15 days..

It has been 15 days of Ramadhan.

For muslims, we are half way of completing our third rukun islam and nearing Syawal. For some, there is joy in the next week to come….joy of shopping and joy of going back to their respective kampong.

So far my ramadhan is better than last year…yet to skip any terawih. All the duit raya has been safely tucked into the small packet to each recipient and all expenses has been detailed out. I know that sounds like over zealous but better prepared than sorry.

Raya this year is not like any other year. No new baju raya because I have like 5 baju melayu which I hardly wear. No new pants, no new shoes….for my kids yes but for me, I just wanna have a modest raya.

Perhaps because 6 days after raya, I got an exam coming up but that was it either. Mungkin saje pasal duit tak berapa ada, tapi duit memang tak pernah berapa ada pun so, tak ade la difference nyer.

Tak tahu ler kenapa tapi mungkin kerana usia sudah meningkat

Hendak dikata tua tapi masih ligat menendang bola dan bertukang di rumah. Hendak di katakan cedera tiada apa lukanya namun raya ini begitu sederhana.

Mungkin itu yg saya mahu …

Mungkin raya memang sepatutnya begitu…

Mungkin saya sedih ramadhan mahu berlalu…

WHAT WE WANTED THE MOST

In life, one cannot be too sure of what he wants or desires.

Sometimes, you just have to accept that que sera, sera …what ever will be, will be.

In many periods of our life, we encountered so many crossroads….unsure to take the left or right turn, perhaps even turn back to where it all started in the first place.

We all have been there and we all have taken the choice. No matter whatever the outcome is, we been there.

I have been wondering that no matter how well plan our life looks like, no matter how many objectives we set, numerous resolutions year after year…sometimes we ended up at the same cross roads.

Be it either to get married to somebody that we are unsure of or to take up the job offer from our dream company fearing that we might not fit in. Unclear the future is-says Yoda in Empire Strikes Back and how wise those words are!!

Personally, i believe that life itself is pandora’s box. It is what we make of it. Being a muslim, I have no qualms about qada’ and qadar but I also believe that we should set our own course of life, even when we failed that doesn’t mean that we should just give up because itu sudah takdir. Mungkin apa yg perlu kita tanamkan adalah “ Aku harus cuba dgn lebih baik lagi” or “ Gagal hari ini bukan bererti gagal selamanya”.

To be honest, I led my life on that principle alone. I may fail today but tomorrow is a different game altogether. I will do my best …no matter what! Everything in life is a contest and there is no best price for coming up second best!

However, lately I have seen incidences or scenarios that shattered my long and trusted beliefs. Reading abt a framer in South Africa who have tried to cultivate his farms but failed multiple times, no matter what method he tried.

Or, a story of a couple been married for 18 years but tried as hard as they might, they just couldn’t conceive a child. Or, a footballer named Alan Shearer who played for his favourite club, Newcastle Utd but probably will never ever land any silverware with the club.

Hmm… perhaps what we wanted the most may be not the one for us. What we felt the most suitable for us could turn into the worst nightmare. What we thought the best person to be our partner may not the one either.

Perhaps the best for us is what we have now. The best car is the same car that has been serving us during our darkest moments and trying times. The best mate is the same buddy, who eat in the same Maggie mee bowl during university days not the guy who constantly pad our back when we got our promotion.

Perhaps the best person we could ever marry is the same person who been with us during our poorer days and support us during our brighter days. Perhaps the best job for us is the one we have now if only we know how to appreciate what it have given us so far.

Then again, there is a saying the grass on the other side is always greener …you can never now.

Till that happens, I will still do the best in what I do…only after I tried a gazillion times and still failing, I know la it is time to stop trying anymore. Fate is what you make it…and god knows best, best for us and best for the people around you

TYPES OF MANAGER

       The Kipper Manager: Two-faced and gutless

· The Pedestrian Manager: Look both ways before crossing them

· The Constructive Manager: Thick as a brick!

· The Delegated Manager: "It's your turn to drain the swamp of crocodiles”

· The Sinatra Manager: "We will do it my way"

· The Ostrich Manager: Lose your head while all around you are keeping theirs

· The Geronimo Manager: Leaps on you from a great height

· The Balloon Manager: Full of hot air and floats around with their head in the clouds

· The Hobby Manager: Doing things they shouldn't be doing, just because they are good at them, or because they are interested in them

· The Frog Manager: Hopping about from job to job and never finishing anything

· The Seagull Manager: Rushes, screaming loud noises into the room, flaps around a lot and rushes out again!

· The John Wayne Manager: Shoot first; ask questions later

· The Assassin Manager: Always finds a scapegoat when things go wrong

· The Black Hole Manager: Makes sure that your ideas and initiatives never see the light of day

WHICH ONE ARE YOU OR YOU'RE FACING WITH?

RENUNGAN BULAN PUASA

Umpamanya:1) Dari bujang -- kahwin No.1 ---- No.2 ----- DLL.


2) Dari pakai moto kap --- kancil -- wira --- Honda ---- seterusnye...


3) Badminton ----- Bowling------Golf...


4) Rumah sewa---- rumah murah ---rumah teres --- banglow...


5) Technician ----supervisor ----- engineer --- manager...


6) Tv 14' --- 21" --- 29" ---- Home theather...


7) Sg Danga --- Tanjung Leman --- Langkawi ---- Hadnyai --- Bangkok..


8) Dalam semua segi kita mau kan perubahan kearah yang lebih baik dan
glamour...


9) Mancing kat parit /longkang ---- sungai --- kolam (bayar punye)----
laut dalam (sewa bot mewah)......


TETAPI... KITA JUGA LUPA...


SEMAKIN BANYAK KITA KECAPI KEJAYAAN, SEMAKIN HAMPIRLAH SAAT KEMATIAN KITA.... DITAKUTI SEMAKIN BERJAYA, KITA SEMAKIN LUPA, SEMUA YANG KITA DAPAT ADALAH PEMBERIAN TUHAN..."ON LOAN"...SETIAP KALI KITA BUAT ACTION PLAN ATAU BUAT REVISION, BERAPA BANYAKKAH KITA MASUKKAN ITEM-ITEM YANG MEMBAWA KEARAH PERSEDIAN UNTUK MATI

Umpamanya:

1) tak sembahyang ---- pastikan sembahyang---jadikan amalan....

2) banyak maksiat ----- kurangkan ----- hapuskan...

3) Bangi ---- madinah ---- mekah---

4) sedekah RM1.00 ---- RM10.00 --- RM100.00

5) sembahyang dirumah --- sembahyang di surau/masjid....

6) 5 jam sehari menonton TV ----- 3 jam TV & 2 jam majlis ILMU....

7) 3 jam baca suratkabar/majallah/internet ----- 2 jam majallah/suratkhabar/internet 1 jam membaca AL QURAN /selawat
8) Apa apa aktiviti yang hasilnya adalah untuk AKHIRAT.

Tetapi apa yang banyak berlaku pada ZAMAN AKHIR ini ialah PERSONAL improvement banyak kepada kearah KEDUNIAAN SEMATA. Perkara berkaitan AKHIRAT slowly di ketepikan....

Contohnya:Kalau dulu rajin dan tak tinggal 5 waktu, tetpi beransur-ansur........ Kalau dulu tak kenal DANGDUT/KARAOKE... bila tuhan beri kenaikan pangkat gaji lebih benda seperti ni dah jadi biasa... Macam macam lagi yang pun sedia maklum dan tahu... malah berlaku dikalangan ahli keluarga kita, jiran, rakan-rakan, DLL.

Jadi samalah kita membuat BALANCE ACTION PLAN,BALANCE OBJECTIVE ; TARGET dan BALANCE IMPROVEMENT.


Sekian untuk ingatan kita bersama.

MODERN WISDOM

• Regular naps prevent old age... especially if you take them while driving.

• Having one child makes you a parent; having two makes you a referee...

• Marriage is a relationship in which one person is always right and the other is the husband!

• I believe we should all pay our tax with a smile. I tried - but they wanted cash...

• A child's greatest period of growth is the month after you've purchased new school uniforms.

• Don't feel bad. A lot of people have no talent.

• You can't buy love, but you pay heavily for it...

• True friends stab you in the front

• Laziness is nothing more than the habit of resting before you get tired.

• My wife and I always compromise. I admit I'm wrong and she agrees with me.

• Those who can't laugh at themselves leave the job to others.

• It doesn't matter how often a married man changes his job, he still ends up with the same boss.

• Real friends are the ones who survive transitions between address books.

• Wise men talk because they have something to say; fools talk because they have to say something.

• They call our language the mother tongue because the father seldom gets to speak.

• If your father is a poor man, it is your fate but, if your father-in-law is a poor man, it's your stupidity.

Penang bridge


Butterworth...in 5 minutes!!


The ride home.. 


KOMTAR from afar 


Returning home 

The state of Malaysian football

The news that our National U-23 football team get walloped by the thais last two weeks by 7-0 was not a surprise to me. After more than a decade of under-achievements and disappointments, we are in a quagmire of footballing limbo.

I have seen as a fan and Malaysian citizen that no matter how many millions we poured to raise the standard of football, we will be no better even in 20 years. Why??

First, the FAM is being filled by the same old heads that has been in control for more than 20 years. Let’s be professional about this. If a CEO of a listed company failed to bring about the necessary level of profits and results, he will be probably be booted out during the AGM or ousted by a vote of no confidence.

FAM is being helm by the Sultan of Pahang by more than 25 years. The vice president is also helm by his son. The rest of the crew are made from state politicians, failed politicians and has beens.

Personally, I believe that is the problem. Having such a huge figure such as a sultan as the President of FAM blunted any level of criticisms because it will be against the law!! Admit it, nobody gonna say to the Sultan of Pahang…” Tuanku, I disagree with your ideas because I feel it is outdated1”. Silap-silap kena buang daerah..malah boleh kena tangkap ISA. Especially in a society that worshipped Hang Tuah as the Uber Malay hero eventhough in modern management terms, Hang Tuah can be classified as a sell-out or licker of the bosses boot!

Second, there are too much money in FAM. Itulah sebab ramai gila nak jadik manager state football eventhough he hardly know shit about the recent rules of offside, penalty taking or how many substitutes allowed for AFC Cup?? The coach imported from all corners of the world are paid handsomely to create miracles, or so they said especially when the Manager usually helm by the some Datuk is paid almost double compared to the coach! So, apa kerja manager tersebut apabila tiap2 tahun ade krisis gaji tidak dibayar oleh State football, EPF tidak dilangsaikan dan sebagainya. Yang peliknya, setiap kali kes ini berlaku, FAM akan step in…dan bayar utk state. Mana pergi accountability and responsibility mereka ini apabila FAM yang diberikan wang daripada kerajaan persekutuan utk memajukan bolasepak negara jadik Bank Negara mini? The money given by the Federal Govt. is your tax payers money..my friend! Your blood, sweat and tears money!!!

In fact, let’s compared to other sports bodies that created World Champions like Bowling and Squash, they faced no problems whatsoever except for some internal squabbles because there are less money in it!! Winning a major tournament for bowling will only rake in RM 10,000.00 whilst winning FA Cup will net almost RM 250,000.00. Any dumb ass will know what to choose but these players playing Bowling or squash is the real national hero because they follows their passion rather than the amount of money!

Third, the infrastructure is no longer available for the development of grass root level. Most of the schools nowadays, no longer have a full blown football field or even have a school football team. As more and more kids going to school, fields has give way to computer labs, additional school blocks etc. In fact, more parents actually discourage their kids to be active in sports because there is no FUTURE in it!

“ Buat apa main bola…bukan boleh dapat kerja!”- Hmm…berbeza dgn Michael Owen when he was signed to play for Liverpool at the age of 7, Wayne Rooney at 9 and Robbie Fowler at 6 years old. Their parents believe that there is future in football…mind you, Robbie Fowler owns more than 20 million pounds in assets!

Fourth, the lack of transparency in funds used by FAM. Why these figures are not shown to the public is an amazement to me especially when it is of the most biggest sports association in Malaysia. FAM spends more money than Perlis! Why? Perhaps there are items like project management(karaoke with GROs) or trips to Bangkok in their accounts that they are afraid to reveal? If we the public cannot question why our tax payers money is being used for the Sultanate of Pahang expenditure, we are either in vegetative state or in a coma. Mind you, Sultan Pahang salary and his family allowances are also being paid by us…via our tax money as well.

Hmm…there are other factors, I hope you can enlighten me even more because I have run out of super latives!

I AM …I AM

Time flies when you are really enjoying yourselves.

Time drag when you are somewhat unhappy or unfamiliar with the surroundings.

I am kinna lost with my surroundings.

I am no longer in touch with my inner feelings.

I am no longer the man I used to be…

I am changing, evolving…is it for the better or is it for the worst??

Time will provide the answer….

Time will show the way…

I am somehow disjointed with my conscience…

I am more sentimental than judgmental…

I am slowly becoming hopeless….

I am no longer connecting at a real level with those arounds me…

I am becoming an island…too far for some to cross….

What has caused all this?

I am somewhat unsure…

I am somewhat bewildered…

Things that used to please…no longer seems to appease..

Things that brings me happiness..no longer create gladness

I am….i am….

Perhaps old…..

Perhaps insane?

Perhaps didn’t count my blessing for having an understanding wife, two lovely kids, a job that suited me at last, a house to call home and a healthy life.

Perhaps I think too much heh?

WORKING WITH AN IDIOT CAN KILL YOU!!!

STOCKHOLM -- Idiots in the office are just as hazardous to your health as cigarettes, caffeine or greasy food, an eye-opening new study reveals. In fact, those dopes can kill you!

Stress is one of the top causes of heart attacks – and working with stupid people on a daily basis is one of the deadliest forms of stress, according to researchers at Sweden's Lindbergh University Medical Center.

The author of the study, Dr. Dagmar Andersson, says her team studied 500 heart attack patients, and was puzzled to find 62 percent had relatively few of the physical risk factors commonly blamed for heart attacks.

"Then we questioned them about lifestyle habits, and almost all of these low-risk patients told us they worked with people so stupid they can barely find their way from the parking lot to their office. And their heart attack came less than 12 hours after having a major confrontation with one of these oafs.

"One woman had to be rushed to the hospital after her assistant shredded important company tax documents instead of copying them. A man told us he collapsed right at his desk because the woman at the next cubicle kept asking him for correction fluid – for her computer monitor.

"You can cut back on smoking or improve your diet," Dr. Andersson says, "but most people have very poor coping skills when it comes to stupidity – they feel there's nothing they can do about it, so they just internalize their frustration until they finally explode."

Stupid co-workers can also double or triple someone's work load, she explains. "Many of our subjects feel sorry for the drooling idiots they work with, so they try to cover for them by fixing their mistakes. One poor woman spent a week rebuilding client records because a clerk put them all in the 'recycle bin' of her computer and then emptied it – she thought it meant the records would be recycled and used again."

******* i TOLD YOU LA WEI....